There is a lot of stuff out there to cause us to become angry. Often times we feel we deserve have the right to lash back at the thing or person who caused our anger.but is that the best thing to do and does it really help? The answer to both is NO.
In James 1:20 it says "The anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God."
Humanly if someone has hurt or wronged you , you feel justified in lashing back. Usually this behavior will only fuel the fires of anger even more. For instance, in road rage, if a driver reacts with a ugly hand gesture out his car window the person may pursue him further and try to make it a physical brawl or bring out a weapon.
If you are angry with your spouse someone has to end the battle. Don't try to always win. Just learn to pray and let things go. Ephesians 4:26 says " In your anger do not sin and do not let the sun go down while you are still angry." Good advice. Why is it necessary for people to fight anyway? Satan is the one who wants us to be in discord with one another. If you remember this in a little argument and could go to the Lord in prayer things would end quicker.
Crushed spirits take time to heal. If you are hurt by a loved one sometimes they may refuse to acknowledge this and you have to turn the situation over to the Lord. Do not allow things to fester and boil over thus turning into bitterness and resentment. Hebrews 12:5 says " see to it that no one comes short of the grace of God, that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled." Lashing back with more inappropriate words digs your pit of anger even deeper. James 1:19 reminds us "My dear brothers take note of this, let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to become angry."
Let me end with this. Proverbs 16:32 says "Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city".
PRAYER: Help me Lord control the urge to spout off and get mad but instead help me develop patience and peace to those who may try to get me angry. I know anger does not glorify you and hurts my witness. Thank you Lord for your help. In Jesus name. Amen.