Wednesday, June 6, 2012
PEOPLE CAN WOUND! GOD CAN HEAL!
How many of us have been hurt by a family member, co worker or a friend? If you have not consider yourself blessed. Depending on how you were raised it may not bother you but it is really painful to be rejected especially when you can not understand why. Many when confronted may say there is a 'personality conflict'. With the new era of communication in social media now we can be hurt and rejected in a new way and it is called being 'defriended' or 'unfriended'. Not even sure if those words are in a modern dictionary but if not they should be. If it was a formerly close friend who did this and they want nothing to do with you there is nothing you can do but pray and move on and try to not let it ruin your day. Do not lash back with mean or harsh words as that only widens the breach that exists. There might even be a valid reason for it if you do not jump to conclusions. But for those friends who no longer want to be a friend, you have to let go and 'shake the dust from your feet' so to speak. Concentrate now more on those who appreciate you and let go of those who wounded you.
Now if it is a family member, you want to try at all costs to heal this relationship. I know of a family with two feuding brothers and neither wants to give in and make amends and move on. It has gone on now for a couple years if memory serves me right. If it is a marital conflict, get counseling because it says in God's word in Malachi 2:6 that he 'hates divorce'. Not trying to guilt any readers out there who are divorced as sometimes there are Biblical reasons for it. But if it is just saying you are 'incompatible', try to work things out and stay together if no one is in danger. God can heal and he can forgive. Let Him.
In relation to those who have rejected you, in 1 Peter 3:9 it reminds us "Do not repay evil for evil or insult for insult, but with blessing,because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing." Kind of hard to not give someone 'a piece of your mind' and fight back. Be still. Give it to God. Let Him transform your hurt and anger. Try to learn to sincerely pray for those who have hurt you. Matthew 5:44 says "Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you."
Dwelling on past hurts only gives Satan a victory. Be powerful and not pitiful and you will overcome this.
PRAYER: Father in heaven help me to resist being ugly to anyone who has hurt me. Help me answer with kindness when I am hurt. Give me your strength to go on when rejected. In Jesus name. Amen.