The little tongue in our mouth works for good or bad. The mouth and mind have to work together to learn when to speak and when to be silent. Words can be spoken when they should have been left unsaid. Learning to speak courteously, honorably, with love, with purity, thoughtfully, and with a purpose takes patience and self control. Every time we feel like talking we should not necessarily talk. Some people speak and are misunderstood and hurt people. It sure is hard to tame the tongue.(See James Chapter 3). Our mind thinks things and we may just blurt out something. If you have this problem ask God to give you self control, discernment, wisdom, and patience. It is Not always necessary to talk.
Many Bible verses deal with this. James 1:19 says "My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this, everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry." Proverbs 10:19 says "Sin is not ended by multiplying words, but the prudent hold their tongues." Proverbs 14:29 says "whoever is patient has great understanding but one who is quick tempered displays folly." In Proverbs 29:20 it says " Do you see someone who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for them" and finally in James 4:11 it says "Brothers and sisters do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law you are not keeping it but sitting in judgment on it."
If you have been the recipient of spoken words that have hurt be a big enough person to accept an apology from the offender instead of dwelling on a mistake. Fueling the fire only keeps arguments going. Put out the fire now and move on. Unforgiveness does not bring glory to God. If anyone does not offend with their mouth they are a perfect man. I do not think I have heard of any perfect person except Jesus.
Stop right now, take a breath, and think before you overreact or say words that can not be taken back. You will feel better in the long run and bring more honor to God. If you have been hurt by words give the person grace and move on. Jesus forgives and we should too.
If you have harsh mean people in your life who do not want to extend forgiveness give them to God. Let him heal wounded angry hearts.
PRAYER: Lord forgive me for the times I have not stopped to think how my words are going to be received or how they will affect the hearer. I do not intentionally want to hurt anyone so give me self control when speaking. Help me know when to speak and when to be silent. In Jesus name. Amen!
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