The F Word

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Your speech needs to be gracious as if seasoned with salt. Colossians 4:6(NIV). Made you look! I am doing a new respectful use of the F word by thinking of all the wonderful clean uplifting F words. Don't wait for society to think of them. The real F word has become slang and almost accepted in society. It should not be said by anyone as it is so crass, crude, and vulgar. But society has stooped to desensitizing the populace little by little to the point that sometimes we forget what is wrong and right and bad or good. Cursing becomes normal. Let's start a new normal. The good "F words" are faith, freedom, fun, fearless, forgiveness, first, and  friend. We have "faith" in God and trust that He is watching over us and hears our prayers.  "Freedom" is a gift from God and only Satan or his demonic powers try to keep us in bondage.  "Fun" is the word to describe what a life lived for Christ is. Once again our enemy the devil will try to make you feel like the life lived for Christ is boring and you can't do anything.  "Fearless" meaning we have no reason to fear what is around the bend as God is in control and He wants you to cast your cares on Him.  "Forgiveness" is what Christ does for us. If you sincerely repent of your sins he offers forgiveness. We too are to forgive others and not hold grudges. "First" is what God should be in your life. "Friends" are so important. Jesus is our best friend or should be. When our youngest son was just a wee little boy he would always tell us he loved us "one less than God". From the mouth of babes. The Bible uses another F word for the time Jesus died on the cross His last words in John 19:30 were "It is finished! " Now we who are alive wait for His return. Is Jesus your friend? Do you have faith? Are you free in Christ? Do you realize God will forgive your sins? Do you realize you have nothing to fear? Do you know a life lived for Jesus is fun!? If you do not know Him why not ask Him into your heart today? He is your Friend that sticks closer than a brother.  PRAYER: Thank you Lord for providing all good things. Thank you Father for forgiving me when I mess up. I choose this day to not enjoy the sins of this world but to have fun in the body of Christ. In you I put my trust. In Jesus name. Amen.  NOTE: This devotion in a longer form appeared first on September 16, 2013.

Word Power

Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. Colossians 4:6

Words can make a person or break them. Once you say something it can not be retracted. It is very important to think before speaking but how often does that happen? I know there are times I let my emotions do the talking and oh how I wish I had not. 

If someone is using angry or hurtful words to you it is best to ignore them because responding back will most likely result in a fight. How many homicides reported on the news were probably started with angry words. Satan loves hurtful words and he loves anger. He really loves it if he can get a believer to not think before they speak. 

Today before you start your day stop and pray that your words would only bring glory to those who hear them. 

PRAYER: Today I choose to let my words show your love to those around me. Give me strength when confronted by less than peaceful people and help me respond in love. In Jesus' name. Amen.

PROBLEMS WITH THE MOUTH? AGAIN?

Who out there in my reading audience has mastered the art of controlling their tongue and what they say? I dare say anyone has. I know I have not so I continue to inspire you,I hope,with writings about what comes out of our mouth. 

If only we could use our brain more before engaging the mouth. Too quick to talk, oops!  Not thinking of what we say and how it impacts the listener. Oops again! Being too quick to respond to something. Oops oops and triple oops.

Mastering the art of conversation and the words we say is something to continually work on. Being too hasty, too impulsive, or too angry can do damage to our speech. Maybe you did not mean to say something but because you did not think those words just slid right out of your mouth. Someone once told me we should use the 24 hour rule before speaking if we were not sure what we were about to say was good. In other words,wait 24 hours. In many cases you probably will not say something once you have thought how it might impact the listener.

In the book of James 2:19 we are told 'My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.' Why not commit that verse to memory today to help you on your quest for perfect speaking?

PRAYER: It is my desire Lord to never be misinterpreted or never hurt anyone with the words I say. Nagging, meddling, hateful speech should have no part in my life. Guide me as I seek to speak to your glory. In Jesus' name. Amen. 

WHOA! WATCH THAT MOUTH.

In the book of James Chapter 3:8(NIV) it says 'but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil full of deadly poison.'  The entire chapter of James 3 deals with problems with the tongue or basically the mouth and what we say. 

I have dealt with this many times previously in my writings because indeed it is hard to tame the tongue. We say something and then go "why did I say that? I could kick myself."  Tongue control requires much discipline. You may think you are just fine. You do not cuss, lie, gossip, and think you pretty much have it under control. But do you really? What about talking about people innocently such as commenting on someone's appearance maybe saying they are too fat, you don't like their hair, or the clothes they have are ugly? Who are we to judge anyway? 

Ephesians 4:29(NIV) is an excellent verse to memorize. It says 'Do not let any Unwholesome talk come out of your mouths but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.'  Talking bad about others does not solve anything and only has you standing in judgment over one of God's creatures. That is something we need not do. If this is your weakness just remember the saying "if you do not have anything good to say then don't say anything at all."

PRAYER: If I am not careful Lord I can find myself being critical of another. I know deep down this is not right. You did not create my mouth to criticize others with but you created it to praise you and encourage others and show love. Help me Lord as I choose good words to build up and help me not murmur about others. In Jesus' name. Amen.

GROUCHY? GET SOME BLUE TOENAILS

 

This is the second go round for this devotion. The first written a few days ago was lost in cyber space. Never even had a draft to use to recreate it so with God's help I attempt to do my best again. The title asks a question, are you grouchy? Maybe you do not think you are but what kind of words constantly flow from your mouth? Are they words of praise or words of condemnation? Are they words of love or words of judgment? Are they words of hope or words of despair? Are they words that build others up or tear them down? Think on that for a moment.

So many folks may get in a habit of griping, judging, gossip, unthankfulness, criticism and not even reallize it. Maybe it has been a part of them for a long time and even Christians can be this way. Pray and ask God to reveal to you if you are this way and if you feel you are try to make changes.

I like the motto for the "Life is Good" company which is "Do what you like and Like what you do". Does that describe you? If not why? Are you in a mode of comparison perhaps? Do you feel you are worth little or perhaps too old for something? If you are an "older person" and keep talking about aches, pains, and all that, then try to change your habit of assuming things happen at a certain age and go on with life. If you are say 60 and feel you are washed up, shame on you. God can and does use people of all ages to serve Him and work for Him. The world we live in makes it sound like we assume we need to throw in the towel, so to speak, at age 50 or 60 or 70 or even 80 etcetera. Why? Some may say, "Act your age" and I say "What fun is that?"

The other day my friend Pam was in town visiting and we went for a pedicure. Normally I get the traditional red or pink shades of polish but I said "I will take the bright blue". Yes I have blue toenails and I kind of like them. I am getting ready to celebrate a "milestone" birthday so what better way to make yourself feel young than getting a crazy toenail color. It makes me laugh just looking at it. Do something fun, get out and get going. Start making your speech be positive. Even in your prayer life start it by praising God and telling Him how great and wonderful he is! Romans 4:17 mentions 'Calling things as not as though they were' or in other words do not use negative talking saying things that drag you down. Believe in miracles. Believe in hope. Believe in the impossible!

Mark 9:23(NLT) says "What do you mean, 'If I can'?" Jesus asked. "Anything is possible if a person believes." Sear that in your brain that ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE! Start a habit of positive speech. Say things like "Thanks Lord for a beautiful day. Thanks Lord for life. Thanks Lord for being a God of mercy. Thanks for my family. Thank you Jesus for hearing my prayers." You can probably think of others. God is a God of hope so try to make your speech give you and others hope and not drag them down. Keep focused on above and if you need to laugh and smile, go get some blue toenails (well maybe not my male readers). Have a blessed and God filled day!

PRAYER: Today is your day Lord. Each and every day is a day to lift up your name. You alone are mighty and powerful. You care about me Lord. I choose this day Lord to start thinking positive and talking positive. In Jesus' name. Amen.

Click this link below and get ready to worship God in song and lift your spirits.

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THE F WORD

Made you look! I am doing a new respectful use of the F word by thinking of all the wonderful clean uplifting F words. Don't wait for society to think of them. The real F word has become slang and almost accepted in society. It should not be said by anyone as it is so crass, crude, and vulgar. But society has stooped to desensitizing the populace little by little to the point that sometimes we forget what is wrong and right and bad or good. Cursing becomes normal. Let's start a new normal.

The good "F words" are Faith, freedom, fun, fearless, forgiveness,first, and friend to name just a few. I challenge you to think of more.

We have "faith" in God and trust that He is watching over us and hears our prayers.

"Freedom" is a gift from God and only Satan or his demonic powers try to keep us in bondage.

"Fun" is the word to describe what a life lived for Christ is. Once again our enemy the devil will try to make you feel like the life lived for Christ is boring and you can't do anything.

"Fearless" meaning we have no reason to fear what is around the bend as God is in control and He wants you to cast your cares on Him.

"Forgiveness" is what Christ does for us. If you sincerely repent of your sins he offers forgiveness. We too are to forgive others and not hold grudges.

 

"First" is what God should be in your life.

"Friends" are so important. Jesus is our best friend or should be. When our youngest son was just a wee little boy he would always tell us he loved us "one less than God". From the mouth of babes.

So you see all there are many wonderful words starting with the letter F found in the
Bible. Our speech needs to be gracious as if seasoned with salt it says in Colossians 4:6(NIV).

The Bible uses another F word for the time Jesus died on the cross His
last words in John 19:30 were "It is finished! " Now we who are alive
wait for His return.

Is Jesus your friend? Do you have faith? Are you free in Christ? Do
you realize God will forgive your sins? Do you realize you have
mouthing to fear? Do you know a life lived for Jesus is fun!

If you do not know Him why not ask Him into your heart today? He is your Friend that sticks closer than a brother.

PRAYER: Thank you Lord for providing all good things. Thank you Father
for forgiving me when I mess up. I choose this day to not enjoy the
sins of this world but to have fun in the body of Christ. In you I put
my trust. In Jesus name. Amen.

NOTE: For the past 8 days I had been on vacation and when I post my email and blogs I do not have my "Address Book" stored in my IPAD so if any of you missed my devotion during this time and care to read it you can check it out at "www.godslemonadestand.blogspot.com". Thanks again for choosing to start your day with the words God gives me to write.

 

MOUTH PROBLEM?

Do you have a "mouth problem"? In other words do you ever gossip, complain, share a confidence, argue, belittle, strike back verbally, brag, interrupt people, lie, judge others, curse, condemn, have angry outbursts, or call people names?  Those are just a few of the afflictions of the mouth. What is a person to do in order to gain control of their mouth? That "24 Hour Rule" I wrote about previously is one helpful way. Let's say you are mad or hurt and just want to tell someone off. If you pray first then ask God for strength to not spout off your anger may subside. The next day you may not feel the same way.

Ephesians 4:26(NIV) is a good verse for married couples or anyone for that matter. It says 'In your anger do not sin and do not let the sun go down on your anger.' Remember the real enemy that causes strife is Satan, not the person, as Satan is in the job of dividing not uniting. Do all you can to make peace before your head hits the pillow at night even if the other party refuses to. Give up "your right" to be mad. It may take some practice. 

Another superb verse taken from the same chapter of Ephesians verse number 29 says 'Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouth but only what is helpful in building up others according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.'  Do the things that come out of your mouth benefit others or tear them down? Just something to think about.

Oh yes and then there is lying, even a "white lie" or "half truth". In my childhood I remember hearing people say "Liar liar pants on fire."  And who could forget Pinocchio, the Disney cartoon character, whose nose grew each time he lied. I am glad that does not really happen or there would be many long noses out there. Lies are never hidden from God that is why it says in

Proverbs 6:17(KJV) in referring to things God hates 'A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood.'

I challenge you to do a word search in the Bible about the mouth, your words, and the tongue. There is so much out there in Proverbs and James especially you will stay busy looking them up. 

Do you best, with God's help, to be alert to what you say with your mouth. Ask God to help you and to reveal areas to you that maybe you were not aware of. Now go into the world around you and let your mouth make someone days perhaps by a word of kindness.

PRAYER: Forgive me Father when I have not been careful with my words either directly or through email or a letter. I choose Lord to be careful and alert to when my mouth starts to get me into trouble. I need your help Lord to get control. In Jesus' name. Amen.

PARDON MY FRENCH

Have you ever heard someone curse then utter the phrase "Pardon My French" as a way to sort of think it is cute or comical to swear? Perhaps the phrase "They swear like a sailor". Both of these are rather insulting to French born people and sailors who do not curse. Never the less these are little cliches floating around out there.

Do you have a problem with the words that come out of your mouth being negative, hurtful, harmful, lewd, arrogant, belittling, or bragging? In the book of James chapter 3 we are told about the dangers of the tongue. Take a moment and get your Bible and look it up and read it. Verse 11 of that chapter says 'Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same stream?' We all know the answer is NO. Basically this verse likewise is trying to get at the point of our mouths should not bless people one moment and be cursing them the next.

Sad to say that cursing to many has become so common place many are desensitized to it. Many shows on TV just go "bleep" when someone utters a profanity. Many may think their explicative words are perfectly fine. Maybe no one has ever corrected them. When the F word is continually used over and over in someones speech they obviously are hardened by it.Christians slip up and cuss too and God wants you to have a pure heart and pure tongue. If you suffer from this "tongue malady" he can help you be delivered if you really want to.

Ephesians 4:29(NIV) is a good verse to maybe write on a card and refer to it and it says 'Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.'

Today here is a good verse to end with. 'Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.' Psalm 19:14(KJV)

PRAYER: There are times I may be angry or frustrated but Lord forgive me if I have ever used a curse word. Also Lord I want to use my tongue to bring joy and bless people and not hurt them. I know with your help iIcan achieve purity in what comes from my mouth. In Jesus' name. Amen.

YOUR WORDS..ARE THEY A BLESSING OR A CURSE?

 

Have you ever stopped to think about the words that come out of your mouth? Words can bless others or they can curse them. There is a Bible verse that says this should not happen. James 3:10(ESV) says 'From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. Brothers these things should not be so.'

We can offend with our mouths. No one is perfect. Examples are lying, gossip, belittling and arguing. Are you guilty of any of those things? Try to memorize the following passage from Ephesians 4:29-31 which says 'Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others upaccording to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.'

Many reading this may not have a big problem with words but maybe live with a person who is a verbal abuser. If this is the case even when the person claims to know Jesus you simply need pray for them. Only the Holy Spirit can bring conviction. We are not, as Joyce Meyer says, "Holy Spirit Junior", keep reminding yourself of that. If you are spoken to harshly do not return the same type of speech. Be calm. That is the only way to diffuse evil speech. Romans 12:21(NIV) says 'Do not be overcome with evil but overcome evil with good.' Proverbs 15:1(NIV) says 'A gentle answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger.' Oh how many marriages could be saved if couples would simply live by God's words. Do not just read them but do them.

Make it your aim to only let what builds up a person come from your mouth. Your assignment is to read James 3 which deals with the dangers of the tongue. Let your life and speech bring glory to God.

PRAYER: Father I know your word speaks much about what comes out of our mouth. Forgive me when I have been hasty with my words and hurt someone or responded in anger. I choose to let you guide me and give me strength. In Jesus' name. Amen.

Click on link below and truly listen to the words of this song.

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LESS SAID THE BETTER

Have you ever heard the phrase 'the less said the better?' Many times
that is so very true. Also the phrase 'leave well enough alone' or
'don't add fuel to the fire' ? Very wise advice. The last few days we
have been dealing with words that wound or words that build up, or

spoken on impulse. Thinking before speaking is a very important thing

to do.

Words should build up not tear into someone. If you claim to be a
believer then it is critical you learn to gain control of the tongue.
Take a moment and review James chapter 3. In Matthew 12:36-37(NKJV) we
are warned about what happens if we say bad things. It says 'But I
tell you that every careless word that people speak, they shall give
an accounting for it in the day of judgment. For by your words you
will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.'

Do you have a problem with careless words? Don't you feel your speech
should bring glory to the Lord? The mouth can be deadly or it can be
life giving. It is how you choose to use it. Granted none of us are
perfect but if we strive to be holy in all areas of life and live like

Jesus then we need to get a grip on this.

'But what if someone says something ugly to me' you might proclaim.
That still gives you no right to be harsh back. Remember the verse

found in Romans 12:17(NIV) which says 'do not repay evil for evil. Be

careful to do right in the eyes of everybody.' If you are angry try
to make peace. There is a verse found in Ephesians 4:26( NLT) which

says 'And don’t sin by letting anger control you.Don’t let the sun go

down while you are still angry.'

'But wait' you might say. 'The person really hurt me so I feel I have

the right to get back.' So what, in fact ,would Jesus do? I think you
know the answer.

Your mission, and I hope you accept it wholeheartedly, is to seek to
only let kind, pure, edifying words come forth from your mouth. Stay
in the word of God and it makes it a bit easier.

PRAYER: Thank you for loving me Lord and for forgiving me when I say
things I should not. I choose to be holy in all areas of my life but I
need your help to do it. Thanks for putting loving friends and family
in my life. Help me be careful to never hurt them with words. In
Jesus' name. Amen.

ENOUGH SAID!!

Taking a break from my Christmas theme and revisiting the problem with our mouths. Have you ever heard the saying 'Leave well enough alone'? How true that is! When it comes to the mouth, sometimes the less said the better. If you are the kind of person who has to get the last word in then you may be headed for disaster in the "mouth" department. Being impulsive and not thinking about what we are saying can be a real problem. Sometimes it is best to just not say anything than to say something and be misunderstood or to cause friction and hurt feelings.

This is where self control comes in. Oh, to master self control in all areas of life. Wouldn't that be wonderful? Sometimes we may randomly just talk without thinking how what we say will be received by someone. Now I am not saying it is necessary to analyze everything we say before we say it, but in order to not hurt feelings or cause misunderstandings, particularly among friends, family and co workers, make an effort to pause before you speak and really think if what you are about to say is necessary. Something randomly pops out of your mouth and you wish you could take it back so very much. Have you been there? I know I have.

There are many areas to discuss about the words we say but for the purpose of this devotion I will deal strictly with trying to have self control and be able to be careful of what we say. It is a challenge. Even in James 3:8(NIV) it says 'No man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil full of deadly poison.' Now that is quite a word picture. Sometimes though we may say something and another person misunderstands our intent and then that is where forgiveness comes into play and second chances.

Are you able to master watching what you say and when you say it? Our mouths can make us or break us. Matthew 12:37(NIV) says 'and by your words you will be acquitted and by your words you will be condemned.' I myself pray almost daily for help in this area. It is so easy to just talk without thinking. I want my tongue to bless others and not hurt them. I want my words to be kind and sweet and not misunderstood. I want my words to bring joy and not condemnation or guilt. I want my words to be full of peace and love and not anger. I want my words to convey Christ living in me.

Start today and if you need help in this area of impulsive speaking and not having self control ask the Lord to guide you and strengthen you. He cares and he hears your prayers. Proverbs 18:21(NIV) says 'The tongue has the power of life and death and those that love it will eat its' fruit.' 1 Peter 3:10(NIV) which says 'Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech.'

'May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.' Psalm 19:14(NIV).

PRAYER: Father help me as daily I seek to be a vessel used by you for your glory. I seek to portray Christ to my friends, my family, those in my circle of influence and even strangers. Help me Lord put a watch over my mouth so I do not hurt anyone by saying the wrong thing. I want to shine for you and not be a hindrance. In Jesus' name. Amen.

TONGUE CHECK

 How many of you reading this have complete control of your mouth? Do you say things you often regret or blurt out things at inappropriate times? If only that brain of ours would kick in to gear before the mouth did, how much easier life would be. We think something then say it and before you know it you wish you could take it back. Too bad we can not have some way to "check" our tongues and root out any wrong words that may accidentally come out. Usually what is in the heart the mouth speaks.

Luke 6:45(NIV) says 'The good man brings good things out of the good stored in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things from the evil stored in his heart. For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.' I am not saying this to say we are all just a bunch of evil people but if you dwell on things that anger you, make you jealous, cause bitterness to your soul and create friction, then more than likely you will let someone be the recipient of ugly words.

So my friend, it is time for a "tongue check". If you know you have problems in this area ask God to fill your mind with His thoughts. Let go of things you harbor against anyone in your heart. Try to make it a practice to not gossip, belittle, curse, argue, lie, meddle, or nag. Ephesians 4:29(NIV) is a good verse to commit to memory and even when others still talk to you hateful or with disrespect you can respond in love. It says 'Do not let unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.'

There you have it. Your assignment is to be nice and speak nice. Purify your thoughts and your mouth should follow. And when you get to thinking 'well I am pretty good' look out! James 1:26(NIV) reminds us 'If anyone considers himself religious but does not keep a tight rein n his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless.'

Go out now and be nice!

PRAYER: Lord Jesus I thank you so very much for the ability to talk. We often do not think to say thanks for that gift as there are those who are mute who can not speak at all. What a treasure and gift it is indeed! Forgive me if I have ever used my tongue to hurt someone or said something to cause problems. Help me Lord get control of my words before I let them come out. In Jesus' name. Amen.

OVERLOOK MEAN SPEECH

Have you ever been talked down to or verbally abused? If so, human nature wants to get back and get even. God's nature is one of self control, love and overlooking an offense. To argue back and forth is going to go nowhere. It is likely many of those who can not control their mouth and their anger need to ask Jesus into their hearts and perhaps go to anger management class. Many who are angry sometimes think, in an odd way, that their anger is totally justified.

Try reading Psalm 19:4 out loud. It says "Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight  oh Lord my rock and my redeemer." Give the person to God who is being ugly. It may be a friend, family member or a complete stranger. Peace, love and overlooking an offense are what will win the victory.

James 1:19-20 says it well. " My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires."

So be the bigger person and show Christian love and let it go.

PRAYER: Lord God I thank you for the ability to talk. Help me be cautious in what I say and how I respond to someone who is beating me up with their words. Help me to show love no matter what. In Jesus name. Amen.

GET CONTROL OF THAT MOUTH AND THE WORDS YOU SAY

The character Steve Urkel played by actor Jaleel White on The TV show 'Family Matters' used to utter the phrase "Did I do that?"  In our own lives we could probably utter the phrase "Did I say that" because many a time the old mouth seems to pop open before we think of what we are saying. Consequently you can get into real trouble if  you are not careful. Embarrassment, hurt, pain,  and misunderstandings can all occur after misspoken words.

The entire chapter of James 3, which I have mentioned numerous times, concerns the dangers of the tongue. We can go on needlessly chattering not even paying attention to whom our words might affect. I always think James 1:19 is an excellent verse to memorize and to use in all types of relationships but especially marriages. It says "My dear brothers take note of this. Let everyone be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." That should be your assignment for today and everyday and more friendships and marriages  would remain intact and not fractured.

Quarrels can occur as a result of words spoken that should not have. For instance in Proverbs 27:15 speaking specifically to the ladies it says "A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day." So see ladies if we can not gain control of that mouth and try to pick fights then we sound like a dripping water faucet. Proverbs 21:9 also says "Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife." Ouch! Don't be a drip and don't cause people to run live in a corner okay?

 But men you are not off the hook. Men are not to be bitter to their wives or children. Colossians 3:19 reminds them by saying "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." When you are harsh do others think you are a Christian. And with children it reminds men in Ephesians 6:4 to not exasperate your children.

Ephesians 4:29 is an excellent memory verse about our words. It says "Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear." If only we could do this on a daily basis. Before you talk about somebody stop and ask yourself if Jesus would approve if he were with you because he is with you. What do you gain by belittling someone anyway? Aren't we supposed to be showing love instead?

Let me just give you a few more verses on words for you to think about in your spare time.

Proverbs 25:11 A  word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver.
Proverbs 10:19 When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.
Proverbs 18:7   A fool's mouth is his undoing, and his lips are a snare to his soul.
Proverbs 10:14 Wise men store up knowledge, but the mouth of a fool invites ruin.
Proverbs 12:13 An evil man is trapped by his sinful talk, but a righteous man escapes trouble.
Proverbs 13:3 He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin.
Ecclesiastes 10:12 Words from a wise man's mouth are gracious, but a fool is consumed by his own lips.
Psalm 19:14 Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.

There you have it. Do your own search in the Bible for more valuable verses on controlling what we say. Do not be hasty and really ask God to help you think before you accidentally say something you will regret later. Let the words coming from your mouth build up not tear down.

PRAYER: Lord Jesus I thank you for the gift of being able to talk. I need to be careful not to use my mouth against people but use it to say nice things and to praise you. Thank you for the gift of speech. I want mine to only bring glory to you. In Jesus Name. Amen.


Sorry this is late. I am travelling this week.

SAY GOOD THINGS!!

In watching the Olympics this past couple of weeks one thing I notice that seems to be a pattern with sportscasters or newscasters in general, is when someone messes up, such as falling over a hurdle, having the bar on the pole vault fall, falling off a fault, or going the wrong way on the uneven bars they just keep showing the mistake over and over and over again. I say "enough already" but even the news seems to get better ratings when all they do is bring gloomy heart wrenching news into our living rooms.

 No one wants to constantly be reminded of their mistakes. If you have a child you do want to correct and discipline them so they do not end up being brats or unruly in society, but you do not need to harp on them constantly about  their errors such as a grade card for instance. Let's say they do not get an A but get a C in one thing but got perhaps B's in all the other things. Do not berate them over the C. Instead praise them for the good grades.  Dads out there trying to grow their sons into men do not have to put them down to do it kind of like a tough guy thing. A verse that goes along with that is Ephesians 6:4 which says "Fathers do not exasperate your children but bring them up in the nature and admonition of the Lord." Bosses do not publicly ridicule an employee either and humiliate them. That just is not cool. Those are just some examples.

Ephesians 4:29 reminds us to "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouth, but only that which is helpful for building others up according to their  needs, that it may benefit those who listen."

The point is to try to stay upbeat, merciful, and positive as much as possible. To learn to do this stay immersed in God's word and do a word search on words, speech, mercy, grace and you will find a host of wonderful scriptures to guide you on how to stay positive. Do not purposely watch something that is going to put bad things into your head. Purpose to plant 'good seeds' in your head instead. Memorize this verse from Philippians 4:8 which says " Finally brothers and sisters, whatever  is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is true, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think on these things."

So my friend start today to let God have control of your tongue. Make it a point to not say something unless it will build up and not tear down. Above all if you mess up be sure to say you're sorry and do not allow to division to set in. With God's help and reading his word you can take control of this area of your life.

Psalm 19:14 reminds us "Let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable in your sight oh Lord my strength and my redeemer."

PRAYER: Lord you have given me a mouth to speak with so help me to use it to build up and praise and not tear down, belittle and criticize. Forgive me for the times I have lost control of my tongue. I purposes to stay positive in a negative world.  In Jesus name. Amen.

WATCH THAT MOUTH!!!!

How many of us  haven't uttered something once at least that we wished we could retract? Once the mouth opens the words are 'out there' and can not be erased. Our mouth can be used for good or for evil. Even well meaning Christians may get caught up in a judging, condemning, or gossip trap and think nothing at all wrong with it. Do you really think the Lord is pleased when we say 'so and so' makes you sick or you do not like them? We are to try to get along and love all people. Even the so called 'creeps' who make fun of Christians are to be loved. What right do we have condemning and fault finding? Let offenses go. Release jealously as well as it can cause bad comments. When you say you can not stand someone or the way they look that is hateful and judgmental. After all, God is the creator of all things so if you make a comment that someone is ugly you are basically condemning God's handiwork.

The Bible speaks about not wishing  ill on enemies and praying for them. It is hard to hate and belittle someone when praying for them. This means ex spouses, friends who have hurt you, a boss or co worker, government officials who act like dictators, perhaps a vindictive neighbor, maybe a rude store clerk or telemarketer who has interrupted your supper.Try to let your speech and conduct be like Jesus. Feed your mind positive things from God's word and there is little room to put hateful thoughts in your brain. Colossians 4:6 says "Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone."

Both 1 John 2:9 and 1 John 4:20 talk about 'hating' your brother. Brother meaning not just your family but a total stranger. The first verse here referred to says "Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates his brother the truth is not in him." The second scripture reference says "If anyone says he loves God yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother who he has seen, how can he love God who he has not seen?"  Matthew 5:44 tells us to "Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you." Proverbs 24:17 is pretty straight forward when it says "Do not gloat when your enemy falls; when he stumbles, do not let your heart rejoice."

Do you have a critical spirit or know someone who does? The saying goes "If you can not say something good do not say anything at all." If you are tempted to put someone down, say something ugly, or make fun of a person stop yourself and ask if Jesus would be pleased. Ask God to transform your speech to please him.

PRAYER:Lord Jesus I often say some things I later regret or catch myself maybe being critical of someone. Help me Lord to try to pray for those who are unlovable or hurtful. You do not want us to show hatred or return evil for evil. Lord give me a pure heart and let my speech bring glory to you. In Jesus Na

LITTLE MARY SUNSHINE OR OSCAR THE GROUCH??

When people talk about you would they tend to think of you more as a delightful joy to be around or a 'Little Mary (or Harry) Sunshine or a 'Oscar the Grouch' type constantly being ugly and temperamental? Ponder that for a while. Most of us probably think we are okay but is your demeanor reflective of joy, peace, happiness and love or criticism, judgment, evil and hatred? When people talk about you do you think it is in the positive or negative?

How do you respond to waiters, store clerks, telemarketers, and those that may rub you the wrong way? Do you spout off or do you stay under control treating all people with respect? Do you speak to your spouse the same way you did when you were dating or treat them ugly and vindictive? On the road driving, do you cut people off and angrily look out the window at them as you pass by?When things do not go your way do you respond with grace or do you lose control? It is clear that as a believer we need to have our emotions under control and if the area of words and anger is a problem to ask God to help deliver you from bring mean and hurtful. When you speak to someone it should be with kindness and love. It is so easy to get in an argument. It is a bigger person who finds a way to walk away and stop it . Proverbs 16:32 says "Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city." James 1:20 says "Man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires."

 We are to be Christlike and to do that we need to be trying to show Christlike qualities. These would be love, caring, sharing, selflessness, humility, joy, and forgiveness to name a few. Does your life reflect these both out in the 'marketplace' and in your own home? We are to treat members of our own family as better than outside world but the stories you hear often on the news of family violence do not reflect this. In Psalm 101:2 it says "I will behave myself wisely in a perfect way. O when wilt thou come unto me? I will walk within my house with a perfect heart."

James 1:19 could apply to all of life and communication but I have mentioned before it is a good one for newlyweds to commit to memory and live by. It says "My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry". Ephesians 4:29 says " Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." Proverbs 17:1 says "Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife."

So whether you are out in the community, at work or especially at home  you need to tame the anger and the tongue. Make believe you are Jesus and let's say a clerk is rude to you. The saying 'What Would Jesus Do' is a good one to really ponder. What would he do? Try to be like Little Mary Sunshine and let the Oscar the Grouch personality have a rest.

Proverbs 12:16 says "A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult ".

PRAYER: Father it is my desire to treat all people with kindness, love, and respect. Show me where I need work in this area. Help me when I feel like getting mad to stop and pray. Forgive me if I have ever hurt anyone by my words or actions. In Jesus Name. Amen.

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SHUSH! SHHH! WATCH THAT MOUTH!

Oh my goodness to be able to control what randomly pops out of our mouth. A continual struggle for many. Sometimes the best things said are nothing at all. You have heard "the less said the better?" There is allot of wisdom in that statement. Sometimes talking too much, saying the wrong thing, or being misunderstood leads to confusion, heartache and anguish. Practice silence sometimes and really think before engaging the mouth. Ask yourself "will what I say bring joy or sorrow? Is what I plan to say necessary? Is what I am saying gossip or truthful? Am I breaking a confidence by saying what I am about to say?" Spouting off is really not a good thing to do. Let your words bring joy, encouragement, happiness, help, and not crush someones spirit. Be Christlike in all you say and do. Don't let your mouth be a one man wrecking crew leaving destruction in its' path. Practice speaking with grace and kindness.

To help you with the battle of the mouth here are a few Bible verses to commit to memory as you seek to become more like Christ with not only your actions but your words. Ephesians 4:29 says "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." Do not just keep babbling on like a running stream. Be careful in what you say. Even when it comes to praying, the Bible has something to say about words and it says "And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words." Ecclesiastes 5:2 warns us "Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few." Colossians 4:6 says "Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person."

In contrast try to seek to watch what you say and emulate Jesus who was perfect. Proverbs 30:5 says "Every word of God is flawless;
he is a shield to those who take refuge in him." Imagine that! Flawless! Tame that tongue. Get it under control. Make it a point to let good things come out and not hurtful, boastful, arrogant, cursing or harsh words.

"Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight oh Lord my strength and my redeemer."(Psalms 19:14). James 1:19 also is one to memorize and live by and it says "My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." Run to Jesus. He can help you so let Him.

PRAYER: Lord Jesus help me as I struggle in the area of the mouth. I seek to say only kind words and want to learn to always respond to everyone with grace. If my tongue is hurting others convict me and help me to say I am sorry to anyone I have hurt by my careless words. Help me not lead a double life with the words of my mouth. I know I am a witness for you Lord so strengthen me to get this area of speech under your control. In Jesus Name. Amen

Click link below to enjoy a praise song that goes along with this devotion.
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ZIPPY THE LIPPY

" I can' t believe I said that!" How many of us have a problem controlling what seemingly 'pops' out of our mouth? The mouth can really be a source of real trouble if not controlled. The fruit of the spirit of 'self control' in Galatians 5:23 really needs to come into play with the out of control mouth. Scripture has many verses about the mouth and control of the tongue. I have written about it many times. "No man can tame the tongue" it says in James Chapter 3. Read this chapter when you get a moment.

 There are numerous references to 'what we say' in the Bible. It is so easy to talk and not think. Engaging the brain would be the first order of business. Words can be good and uplifting or can hurt someone terribly. 'Be careful little mouth what you say' is the popular Sunday School song that we need to think about before we just let something random pop out of our mouth. Colossians 4:6 says to "Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone." Learn to speak kindly just as if Jesus were in the room because news flash, He is !!

Gossip is a huge problem for many and sometimes disguised as a 'prayer request or concern'. Oh really? Little children who have not yet learned to be disciplined, like we adults are 'supposed' to be, may have trouble with tattling on each other. Hopefully as we mature into adulthood we can let this one go but sometimes not. Some people like to get others in trouble by spilling the beans on them.

Lying is another horrible thing that mouth can do but we as believers should know better and if you have a problem with this ask for God to help you. Scripture says in Proverbs 6:16-17 that "God hates a lying tongue". Perhaps we need to let some folks in Washington DC in on this one who took an oath to follow the Constitution and placed their hand on a Bible. Oaths mean very little to some people. Even marriages where an oath is taken before God means little when a couple starts having problems. When you break your oath  you are lying because you made a promise "for better or for worse, in sickness and health til death we do part." That is a promise and breaking a promise is lying.

Meddling or being nosey is another 'mouth' problem we need to control. Also knowing when to speak and when to be silent is a true discipline. Our mouths can really bring chaos if not careful and cause great heartache. Much more can be written on talking when you should learn to be silent. Stay tuned!

Matthew 12:36 says "But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken". Have you been loose with your lips lately? In the US Navy there is a saying "Loose Lips Sink Ships" meaning just what it says. If you say the wrong thing to a person who tells someone it could get back to the enemy and voila, an attack occurs. In the military there is something where not even all military people on active duty need to know everything. It is a 'need to know' theory of sorts. I remember once when on active duty asking my husband, who was also on active duty, about someplace his  unit was being deployed to. He said he could not tell me as I did not have a 'need to know'. Many civilians could benefit from that same mentality and we would not be prying into everyone's business all the time. One good example is how parents need to back off from controlling their adult children and trying to know everything especially when they are married. Your job is over raising your children and their lives begin without you and they will let you know when you need to be included. Not following this can hurt the relationships of children and their parents. One more example of meddling would be spending too much time on Facebook delving into the lives of your 'friends' to find out what is 'going on'. Does it matter really? Think about that one.

So there you have it. Be careful to think before you say something. Try to be calm and not angry and do not jump to conclusions and say things  you may regret later. Sometimes the less said the better. God can help you if you are weak in the 'running off at the mouth' area. Just call on Him. Proverbs 29:11 says "A fool utters all his mind: but a wise man keeps it in till afterwards."

PRAYER: Lord I sometimes blurt things out or send an email that I am sorry about later. Forgive me if I have ever hurt anyone or caused trouble because of this. Help me to concentrate on being Christlike in my speech and to think before I start to talk. Help me learn to be kind and not harsh. Help me also to learn to respond with grace to those who may be harsh with me. In Jesus Name. Amen.

DEALING WITH MEAN PEOPLE

We are told as Christians to love one another but in life along comes someone who treats you mean mostly on a verbal basis. It could be a friend, co-worker or the worse and most shocking of all, a family member. Being ugly to anyone is uncalled for and those who are victims need to learn to keep praying for these people as they are obviously dealing with deeper more hidden issues and are just using you as a person to take all their anger out on.Sort of 'target practice' or a verbal punching bag of sorts.  Many of these people refuse to admit fault and think they are justified talking ugly. God is not pleased with any form of bad speech or bad behavior. If this is within the family, counseling needs to be sought. If it is among friends you can try to talk but sometimes the friend is unwilling to make amends and thinks they are totally justified. What happened to 'love one another'? Verbal abuse is never right to anyone. It needs to be dealt with and nipped in the bud. At work, a superior may mistreat a junior employee as being higher up in the chain so to speak. If it is severe, a grievance could be filed, but if it is just rudeness and ugliness you need to learn to bite your tongue and keep praying for this person. Hate is not the answer. Quitting is not the answer either. We too need to not be verbal abusee's, so to speak, to people such as phone workers. Treat all people with respsect.

James 1:26 states it pretty clearly when it says "If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless." Have you ever run into anyone who claims to know Christ but yet cusses and takes His name in vain? It is pretty disheartening. But that mouth seems to be hard to control for lots of people. That is still no excuse. If you are dealing with a 'mean person' in your life turn them over to God and ask Him to do a work in their hearts. Nothing we can do or say will help. In fact it may worsen things. It is better to do the soft answer turns away wrath routine. (See Proverbs 15:1). There is a saying that 'hurting people hurt people'. Once again no excuse but Matthew 5:44 says "But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,". In Luke 6:28 it says "bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you." Very hard to do. Human nature wants to start an arguing match or gesturing behind their backs. This is not God's way. God wants you to show love and forgive these 'mean people' even when they do not ask for forgiveness. Forgive them in your heart. Proverbs 17:9 says "He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends."

Sometimes people talking ugly may not be reading God's word. They may claim to know God but only attend church on Sunday but live like they want the rest of the week. You may live with a person like this which would be hard to take. Nothing we can do to change that but it does say in Ephesians 4:29 "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." If someone claims to know Christ they need to be starting to get into the word to practice some of these scriptures. Perhaps you are a person who can not stop saying ugly words or curses. You know it is wrong. Ask God to deliver you from this and start looking up verses on clean and pure speech. If someone in your life is doing it give them over to the Lord. Let the Holy Spirit convict their hearts.  If you are the mean one you need to get a grip and go to the Lord and ask for His help.

So start today to ask God to help you love anyone in your life who is rubbing you the wrong way or being unkind to you. We do not know why people feel justified in swearing and mistreating others. Some of it could be something from their past they need to deal with. In the meantime as a Christian learn to do the right thing and just answer someone with kindness and show love. Proverbs 10:12 says "Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs."  Even if you are angry that a telemarketer is bothering you, still be kind and realize that is someone's child on the other end. I have been a phone worker before and people can be nasty.

If you are a young couple reading this just starting off married life together purpose in your heart to never go to bed angry. Also make James 1:19 your marriage motto. I often write it on a newlyweds card and it says "My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." If you have hurt someone ask forgiveness and if you are a victim of this just pray for the person to seek help and ask forgiveness. Only God can mend a hurt heart. He can do the changing. Remember the childhood song which said "Be careful little mouth what you say"? Well we all need to learn to do that. Start today. New year, new you.

PRAYER: Lord I want to represent you well here on Earth whether it is at home, out in the market place or at work. Things happen and people get angry. Help me to not say harsh words to others and if spoken to harshly help me respond with grace to these people who are like sandpaper. I know it breaks your heart to hear family members hurt other family members with unkind words in the one place they are supposed to show love. Father help anyone dealing with any of these struggles come to you and humble themselves Lord and ask forgiveness and seek your face. Help victims of harsh words learn to love regardless. In Jesus Name. Amen.

Note: I have included a song to lift your spirits today. Click on link and praise the Lord!
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