We all probably have people in our lives that 'push our buttons' so to speak. Perhaps we said something once to offend or hurt someone and even though you asked the person to forgive you they just can not let it go and will not let you back into their 'inner circle'. Some would say move on and cut your losses. Shake the dust from your feet is what it says in God's word in Matthew 10:14. Romans 12:14 says "Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse." Our human instinct is to be angry but God wants us to be bigger than that. He wants us to love this person even if they do not want our love. Heap burning coals on their head it says in Proverbs 25:21-22. " If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the LORD will reward you."
Pray about it and then get your mind off it. Satan is the one wanting you to obsess and reason things out in your head. Matthew 5:44 says " But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you." It is only through the super natural ability given to us through the holy spirit that this is possible. 1 Peter 3:9 says "Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing." Colossians 3:2 says to "Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things." God can give you the strength to get your mind thinking about something else. It just takes practice and discipline.
If the problem is with a friend or business associate it is different than if you are talking about the offense of a marriage partner, for instance. People today seem so quick to throw in the towel on marriages thus wrecking lives in their wake. Marriages take a bit more of an effort than just praying although that is vitally important. When you have conflict or hurt from a spouse if you intend to fulfill your vows and live happily ever after then you have to talk things out and choose to let it go and forgive. "Love bears all things" as it says in 1 Corinthians 13. Malachi 2:16 simply says "I hate divorce." As a couple, read the Bible and do what it says, simple as that! Treat each other with kindness and respect and learn to overlook an offense.
There you have it. With the Lords' help you can achieve peace in your life and resolve conflict. Keep in mind that Satan is the one out to destroy relationships. If you are hurting because of a broken relationship with a close friend just give it to God and try to let it go. God heals, so let Him.
PRAYER: Lord I thank you for the gift of friendships. Personalities are different and sometimes conflicts and misunderstanding occur. In my own effort Lord I can try to get forgiveness but if the person refuses to forgive all I can do is give it to you and let it go. In Jesus name ,Amen.