It is easy to point the finger or correct people. We may feel we know it all and have reason to 'fix others'. In our families it can be easy if we are not careful to start taking the spouse for granted and kind of bossing them around, criticizing them or treating them like a child. This does not make for a very good 'love potion'. Avoid picking on each other and fault finding. No matter if it is a friend but especially if it is the one you love. Other people may be ugly and mean but you can overlook it and choose to be the 'bigger person' and ignore bad stuff. Give things over to the Lord.
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Psalm 19:12 says "How can I know all the sins lurking in my heart? Cleanse me from these hidden faults." No one is perfect. People leave socks in the floor, lights on, and dirty dishes in the sink. If we try hard to be like Jesus then there would not be conflicts and fault finding. If we did what scripture told us to do there we could all get along and there would not be problems. Seek to say and do good things and think before you speak as to avoid a confrontation you do not need.
Proverbs 19:11 says "A man's wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense." Do not pick out faults in others. When we look at others and condemn them we have to realize we too have faults. If you are married it is so important to try to remain best friends. Do not start nit picking and telling the other one what to do. No one likes to be bossed around. When you feel like fault finding try buying a rose to bring home instead. Good idea don't you think?
Ephesians 4:32 says "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you." Truly seek to be like Christ. Seek to sincerely put the other person first. For marriages you will stay in love and for friendships you will remain friends. Colossians 3:13 says to "Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." Do not let Satan get the upper hand. I always say confusion and problems are the way the devil gets in and gets division going and starts to tear apart relationships. Be aware of it and do not let it seep into your relationships. The enemy likes to divide things and destroy them. Tell Satan to take a hike and leave you alone!
Proverbs 14:29 says "A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly." One of my all time favorite verses that I try to live by and I think it is great for newlywed couples to memorize and that is James 1:19 which says "My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry."
Think of ways to build people up instead of tearing them down. I Thessalonians 5:11 says "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing." Get rid of a critical spirit and replace it with a spirit of love, kindness, and humility.
PRAYER: Lord thank you for helping me to walk the walk that pleases you. If I am ever critical of any one I am close to please forgive me and help me seek ways to overlook faults and failures of others and focus on good points. I know this pleases you and ask for help doing it. In Jesus Name, Amen!
Assignment: Read 1 Corinthians 13