Joyce Meyer is one of my favorite Bible teachers. She often talks about not being 'holy spirit junior ' in relationships where we tend to want to 'play God' and manipulate the outcome. It always will backfire. It is another way of being a control freak or wanting to have things your way and figuring you must be right and know what is best. I am pretty sure all of us may have experienced this. We are not happy with spiritual progress of our husband, for instance, so we 'plant' Bible verses where he may see them. That is just one example but I am sure you can think of many more. Or maybe we feel someone should see something our way. Once again it is the Holy Spirit's job to bring conviction, not ours. Be able to admit to yourself, I might be wrong. I may in fact not have the answer.
James 4:10 says to "humble yourselves before the Lord and he will lift you up. " Proverbs 11:2 says , "When pride comes then comes shame, but with the humble is wisdom." Instead of trying to force change your own way why not try praying. Colossians 1:9-10 is a good verse to use and personalize by praying it with someones name. I have left the word 'you ' out for you to pray it putting in your name or someone else's. "For this reason, since the day we heard about ________, we have not stopped praying for ________ and asking God to fill __________ with the knowledge of his will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding. And we pray this in order that ____________ may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God."
Prayer: Lord this day help us to be guided by your Holy Spirit and submit to you and try to not manipulate and do things our way. Get me out of the way so you can do the work you need to Lord. Use me when necessary for the purposes you have planned. In Jesus Name. Amen.